Connection...

Naive/nɑˈiv/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [nah-eev] –adjective
1. having or showing unaffected simplicity of nature or absence of artificiality; unsophisticated; ingenuous.
2. having or showing a lack of experience, judgment, or information; credulous: She's so naive she believes everything she reads. He has a very naive attitude toward politics.
3. having or marked by a simple, unaffectedly direct style reflecting little or no formal training or technique: valuable naive 19th-century American portrait paintings.
4. not having previously been the subject of a scientific experiment, as an animal.
Also, na⋅ïve.

The last 7 days have been very fun filled for me. I did a lot of stuff, met my friend, went out, had a lot of fun, had a lot of drinks too :P, spent time on the internet, cooked food and watched a lot of TV. I was in relax mode last afternoon, just surfing through TV channels when I happened to stop hitting the "next" button on the remote control. A movie which I had watched a long, long time ago... Forrest Gump, was playing at the matinee showtime.

This time was the second time I watched the movie, and I remembered the way I was weeping while watching Tom Hanks delivering the amazing award winning performance when I first watched this movie, and I had felt so low for that day, I cannot forget it. This time around, it was more insightful... And as I have already confessed in my blog, I am curious...

The protagonist is so naive! I mean, I am curious because I am wondering what the world would do today of such people, you know. It is amazing to see how Forrest lives his life in his own little world while he is also living a parallel life in "the" world, which just does not care about anything! People are just looking for their own advantage from Forrest throughout the movie, but he is just too naive to even feel bad about it. Right from his love interest Jenny to Lieutenant Dan to the millions of people looking for him while he is running across the US of A. People who do not know him personally refer to him as "Stupid" throughout the movie.

At many instances during the movie, you feel a connection with Forrest. Like the thoughts he speaks out of naivity, are the same thoughts which often come into any persons mind at some point or the other in their lifetime, the only difference is that he speaks them out while we choose to keep them inside ourselves. Forrest is a living example of the fact that life is so simple, it is we the people who make it more and more complicated. Forrest also ponders whether life is just all about fate, or is it a series of meaningless accidents... Or is it a bit of both?

There are also many other messages in the movie, like Forrest's mother says that we need to make our own destiny. Nothing comes planned. She also says, life is a box of chocolates, you never know what you might get! It is all so true... Many such messages are shown in umpteen number of movies, but this one just makes it real.

If we try to apply these simple things into our daily lives, it would be so much better. The movie has inspired me to be a better and a more non-judgmental person and expect less but give more to my life and the people important to me. Treasuring my near ones, helping the needy and making at least a little difference to the world in making it a better place. I am not standing on my feet right now, my hands are tied. But this is no excuse I know, and I promise myself that I will always keep life simple, I will love my loved ones and give my 100% to everything I do in life.

All in all, Forrest Gump, is definitely a must watch. And Forrest is very close to my heart. I wrote on this movie because whenever I think of Forrest, I just think of one word. Naive. And I find a weird connection with him and my life.

Do watch the movie!

Exes and Ohs

No, no.. I am not talking about lesbianism and the rules of lesbian dating here, nor am I really in the mood for the Ex and Oh game [I am pretty good at it by the way]... But when I say "Exes and Ohs" I mean it, literally! Whenever we think of our exes, there is always an oh! accompanying it :P

I have had I don't know how many relationships till date... I've lost count, honestly. Some lasted for years, some for months, some for weeks, some for days and some for hours too! But I have been in 3 serious relationships as of now. And when I look back now, I do not have the slightest feeling of regret because each one of them made me a better, stronger person and more acquainted with the realities of life.

Different people have different approaches towards their exes. To each his own. I have a mixed one! I used to think before that it was not difficult being friends even after you have been dating before. I was convinced about it too because I was friends with all my exes that time. That was 3 years ago. The notion has changed now, I think that once you break up, you better keep your exes out of sight, out of mind, and out of life! The reason for this change, I believe, is that I used to never be as involved in relationships before... Now, it is a little different.

One of the many things that I have learnt from my current relationship, since past 1 and a half year, is that you MUST NOT mention your ex [even if that is in a friendly faith] in front of your current interest at any cost. They react adversely, sooner or later. They tend to take it otherwise. One of the many things I wanna learn from my current relationship, especially being a girl, is how to get over my ex flames, for good! I really want to learn how to eradicate the inevitable force of comparison which takes over your current relationship at some point or the other during its tenure.

I learnt from my first serious Ex that women should not and must not be used as dummies to take out your frustrations in life. Oh, I would not want to have that phase of life back again! I learnt from my second serious Ex that respect ought to be an important ingredient in any relationship. Just because you're committed to a girl does not mean she cannot have a career and her own self respect. Oh, how I hope the notion has changed now... What makes everything worse is the peculiar quality of Exes to realize their mistakes only after the relationship has been called off! Oh, it sucks! I cannot think of an Ex situation without an Oh! :P Atleast not right now...

Nevertheless, I am very thankful to all my Exes, serious or not, for teaching me something or the other. Doesn't matter whether I am in touch with you or not, I will always wish the best in life for all of you! Oh, and I had a great time with all of you :P [There we go, another Ex with an Oh!] Thank you for everything! I know and you know it too that we are each others Exes coz things did not workout well. There was hurt, tears, mistrust and everything of that sort, but as Justin Timberlake says, What Goes Around Comes Around... I am a strong believer in that! Thank you the most for going away from my life, if it was not for you guys, I would have not met my current love interest ;)

Cheers!
Keep spreading love, it is beautiful!

Lost and Found!

Hello Blogosphere!

I am so happy to let you guys know that Sam, my Turtle, has been found.. Or should I say he thought of returning himself! My bro Nik tells me that just when he finished reading my previous Blog entry, he heard and felt something moving under the bed of our room. It was Sam! I am so happy right now! As expected, Mom is busy giving him food and talking to him... Love you Sam :) We missed you a lot! And hey, we really need to change his sleeping area now :|

Missing...

Hello Blogosphere,

This is Sam, my cute little Turtle in the picture. He is a Red Eared Slider, the size of 2 coins placed alongside each other. 3 months old, Sam is a very speedy Turtle with wider than usual feet. He also has an unusual talent of climbing up vertically on Sofa sets and beds by entangling his nails into the cloth. Sam has been missing since the 26th of November, 2008. The last I saw him was when I put him to sleep in his usual place, the glass bowl placed on the side table in the drawing room of my house, and then I went out with my Dad for lunch at my Granny's place. We returned 2 hours later only to find Sam missing from his place. Usually he would not budge, and it was almost impossible for him to get out of the glass bowl anyway! But as I mentioned, he has some special talent, he must have jumped out of the shallow bowl somehow and made his way to a place he felt better off living in. We searched everywhere, but all our efforts were in vain. My friend Seno said to me that her sis has a turtle who went missing too, but they found him back after a month. It is just over 10 days now, but I am keeping my hopes high. I know wherever he is, he is alive and kickin'. Miss you Sam, come back soon! Mom misses you the most! :(

Was that the worst day of my life?

Yesterday was the birthday of my dear friend Ami. I wished her at 1203am sharp IST through SMS since I am out of town these days. She thanked all her friends, including me, in her blog entry thanking everyone for their wishes. I felt very special, mainly because it is rare to feel special in return when you make someone feel special in the first place. Everything was so good, even when we are so far from each other, we feel so near, thanks to technology and also our abilities to be good at expression :P [I'm not boasting].

What I forgot in this whole deal is that another dear friend of mine, Annie, also had her birthday yesterday. It totally skipped out of my mind! I did not know it in the first place, but had happened to read a public conversation between Annie and Ami where they had mentioned that they shared their Birth dates! I spoke to Annie this evening, apologized for being late and sent her belated wishes too, but that was not going to do any good to the horrible day she had yesterday. Deep down inside, I do know what exactly she felt yesterday. It feels really, really bad. The crazy girl that I am, I thought of making Annie feel better by telling her an experience of mine which is worse than the day she had yesterday, maybe that would make her feel better :P. I know it may not be the right thing to do, but it did not work anyway because she was in a hurry to leave. But the whole idea that I had planned to make Annie feel better brought back some old memories, So I will put the incident down here anyway [in brief] so that she manages to read it and feel better whenever she gets the time! ;)

On my 21st Birthday, I was in Canada, unfortunately it was also my 1 year anniversary of dating my male interest, on the very same day. I ended up spending the entire day with my enemy, I did not see the face of my guy the entire day[in spite of living in the same house], and he wished me Happy Anniversary at 1201am on the next day! I had planned so many things, how I would spend a romantic evening with my beau, but it turned out exactly the opposite. He was working all day. I was away from home, away from quality family time [I always miss them a lot when they are seven seas away from me], I had no friends since I was in a new city, and I had no gifts! Can you believe a birthday with no gifts :( It sucks! Especially for me. Even if I grow 80 years old, I will still love to cut a nice cake on my birthday but I didn't even do that. No cake. I thought it would be double celebration but it was doubly worse. I cried rivers and oh well... I am not with the guy anymore either. But the moral of the whole story is that never plan your birthday! Or any special day! The more you plan the worse it goes... That is why I am open to surprises ;) Expect the best surprise but prepare for the worst. If any of the readers of this blog entry have had a worse birthday, feel free to share!


P.S. This one was for you Annie. Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday once again, have a great year ahead! And yes, the cake is for you, but I have shamelessly helped myself with the first piece. Darn, THAT is why I cannot lose my weight! Anyhow, let me know how you like it!:)

The Thin Red Line

Hello Blogosphere :) Guess I could not stay away from blogging for long :P

Well, I am a huge fan of the F.R.I.E.N.D.S. TV series, and by huge fan I mean that I managed to buy the entire collection of the copyrighted DVD's of all their seasons.. Yay! But that is not what I am going to be talking about. I have been doing a lot of thinking lately [Since I don't have much work to do :P] just a general wondering.. Do friends like that still exist?

I know many people would beg to differ from the statement I made above, but come to think of it, sooner or later we all become selfish inside. And that does not mean that we are bad people, but experiences and time change us eventually. I find it very difficult to trust people around me these days. And more than trust, it is that feeling of growing apart... We have our own special childhood friends [Chaddi Buddies] and we promise each other that we will be friends forever, we exchange keychains and pendants and make greeting cards for each other, write BFF all over their hand on Friendship Day and talk virtually all the time over the telephone. We can dial each others numbers even when we are blindfolded and can tell each others favourite colors, movie and actor/actress because we have it on the tip of our tongue. We grow up together and go to the same junior college and share each others accessories to wear for college. We like the same guy, but would give him up for the sake of our friendship. We bunk college together and sneak out to go to the beach and watch movies first day first show. We study together for our board exams and help each other do better. But then, suddenly one day we go to college by ourselves and not with each other and take the opposite for granted. We choose separate fields for higher education and then we all go different ways. Yes, we call each other on birthdays and get usual updates about each other but we won't meet up because we have a boyfriend who we think is more important that the childhood friend. We watch a movie with our boyfriend instead. We email each other, we scrap each other, we sms each other. But we cannot spare time for each other for old times sake. Where are we leading to? Aren't we turning too selfish? Aren't we getting too busy with living our lives without our close friends? It is a vicious circle.

There are eight kinds of friends which I have observed. There is a very thin line between them. That is why I named my post The Thin Red Line :P [As you may have already guessed by now].

The first one is the fake friend. The one who is oh so sweet with you on your face and bitches about you right behind your back. The second one is the time pass friend. The one with whom you speak all the bullshit under the face of this earth, you go out, have fun, then say goodbye and carry on with living your life. The third one is the friend who takes advantage of you. I don't think I need to explain this one. They keep exploiting us but we just let them go every time just because we think they have a good heart. But everything has a limit, who knows whats the truth. They would disappear the very next day when their work with us is done. The fourth one is the friend for namesake. They expect a bit too much, and are hurt too easily. They would expect you to meet them and go shopping when you're busy with your uncle's post funeral ceremony. That's not all. You have to explain a lot to them and say sorry a million times and then go shopping with them to make it up for that "blunder". The fifth one is the friend who is a good listener. This one has three parts [a], [b] and [c]. All of them listen to everything you have to say, all the things you want to let out in front of them. The difference is that [a] listens to it all and keeps quiet. [b] listens to it with one ear and lets it go out from the other. [c] listens to it all and lets it go out through his/her mouth in front of the whole world. The sixth one, is the friend for life. They're a bit of all the above mentioned types, but they really care for us. They really do. The seventh one is the Companion. Whom we call our girlfriends/boyfriends/husbands/wives. The eighth one... last but not the least, is the kind of friend that cannot be described within the limits of words. We all have one such friend.

I have had very few friends in my life. Right from my childhood. The world thinks I am snobbish and have an attitude problem. I really don't, but I do agree that I am quiet and reserved around people I meet for the first time. When I look back at my journey so far, I can only think of a few names who deserve to be called my friends. I am home alone since last night and have been missing all my friends. So here's to all my lovely friends, I would have not been this way if it was not for you guys :) Now you decide whether I am good or bad, or good girl gone bad :P

Santoshri, Neli, Bhumika, Vidya, Dhruvi, Harsh, Devang, Rajat, Nikhil, Nabila, Rakhi, Angel, Polo. Thanks for coming into my life, you make it beautiful just by being in it. Whether in touch or not in touch. You will remain my closest buddies forever. I know I have not mentioned everyone, but like I said before, they are of the Eighth kind ;) A special mention for a special group of friends in my life whom I have not even met, but feel so connected with them [ILMBF]... Love all of you...

As I end this post I remember the lines from a song of Paul McCartney:

There is a fine line, between recklessness and courage
It's about time, you understood which road to take
It's a fine line, your decision makes a difference
Get it wrong, you'll be making a big mistake

Come on brother, all is forgiven
We all cried when you were driven away
Come on brother, everything is better
Everything is better when you come home and stay....

Finally...

So THIS is how it feels like to be a part of the very talked about Blogosphere! Well, it is probably too early to use this sentence, but I am happy that I am finally blogging! I have ALMOST blogged many times before, but gave up at the last moment just because I did not know where to start from... But most of my blogger friends say that is how they all started blogging as well, so I think I will just start typing anything now.

I thought I had nothing to say but turns out I have a lot to say but just don't know where to start from. I am sitting at home jobless these days, I am sitting at home all alone right now, Life is showing its usual twists and turns and I am still flowing with it, I am outraged with the recent terror attack in Mumbai, I hate Himesh Reshammiya, I have to lose weight, these are just some of the things on my mind right now.

I used to have this small diary with a cute lock on it. I used to proudly call it my secret diary and write down about all my secret crushes and all that I wanted to say to those guys. On the other hand I also used to read it out to my best friends whenever they visited my place. I was twelve years old that time. I miss those days, I wish I had the diary, I wish I had those friends, I wish I had those crushes, I wish I could let it all out in front of my close ones like I used to before. Ah... How time changes us all...

Nevertheless, I really hope I find something to talk about soon since I am in the Brain Freeze mode right now. After effects of starting to watch the movie Yuvvraaj. Yes, I am watching Yuvvraaj as I am suffering from Insomnia tonight. Trying to sleep. I am very positively convinced that it will not disappoint me in anyway.

See you soon Blogosphere :)

P.S. : This is for the one person who actually has motivated me to do this. XOXO