Dec 6, 2008
The Thin Red Line
Hello Blogosphere :) Guess I could not stay away from blogging for long :P
Well, I am a huge fan of the F.R.I.E.N.D.S. TV series, and by huge fan I mean that I managed to buy the entire collection of the copyrighted DVD's of all their seasons.. Yay! But that is not what I am going to be talking about. I have been doing a lot of thinking lately [Since I don't have much work to do :P] just a general wondering.. Do friends like that still exist?
I know many people would beg to differ from the statement I made above, but come to think of it, sooner or later we all become selfish inside. And that does not mean that we are bad people, but experiences and time change us eventually. I find it very difficult to trust people around me these days. And more than trust, it is that feeling of growing apart... We have our own special childhood friends [Chaddi Buddies] and we promise each other that we will be friends forever, we exchange keychains and pendants and make greeting cards for each other, write BFF all over their hand on Friendship Day and talk virtually all the time over the telephone. We can dial each others numbers even when we are blindfolded and can tell each others favourite colors, movie and actor/actress because we have it on the tip of our tongue. We grow up together and go to the same junior college and share each others accessories to wear for college. We like the same guy, but would give him up for the sake of our friendship. We bunk college together and sneak out to go to the beach and watch movies first day first show. We study together for our board exams and help each other do better. But then, suddenly one day we go to college by ourselves and not with each other and take the opposite for granted. We choose separate fields for higher education and then we all go different ways. Yes, we call each other on birthdays and get usual updates about each other but we won't meet up because we have a boyfriend who we think is more important that the childhood friend. We watch a movie with our boyfriend instead. We email each other, we scrap each other, we sms each other. But we cannot spare time for each other for old times sake. Where are we leading to? Aren't we turning too selfish? Aren't we getting too busy with living our lives without our close friends? It is a vicious circle.
There are eight kinds of friends which I have observed. There is a very thin line between them. That is why I named my post The Thin Red Line :P [As you may have already guessed by now].
The first one is the fake friend. The one who is oh so sweet with you on your face and bitches about you right behind your back. The second one is the time pass friend. The one with whom you speak all the bullshit under the face of this earth, you go out, have fun, then say goodbye and carry on with living your life. The third one is the friend who takes advantage of you. I don't think I need to explain this one. They keep exploiting us but we just let them go every time just because we think they have a good heart. But everything has a limit, who knows whats the truth. They would disappear the very next day when their work with us is done. The fourth one is the friend for namesake. They expect a bit too much, and are hurt too easily. They would expect you to meet them and go shopping when you're busy with your uncle's post funeral ceremony. That's not all. You have to explain a lot to them and say sorry a million times and then go shopping with them to make it up for that "blunder". The fifth one is the friend who is a good listener. This one has three parts [a], [b] and [c]. All of them listen to everything you have to say, all the things you want to let out in front of them. The difference is that [a] listens to it all and keeps quiet. [b] listens to it with one ear and lets it go out from the other. [c] listens to it all and lets it go out through his/her mouth in front of the whole world. The sixth one, is the friend for life. They're a bit of all the above mentioned types, but they really care for us. They really do. The seventh one is the Companion. Whom we call our girlfriends/boyfriends/husbands/wives. The eighth one... last but not the least, is the kind of friend that cannot be described within the limits of words. We all have one such friend.
I have had very few friends in my life. Right from my childhood. The world thinks I am snobbish and have an attitude problem. I really don't, but I do agree that I am quiet and reserved around people I meet for the first time. When I look back at my journey so far, I can only think of a few names who deserve to be called my friends. I am home alone since last night and have been missing all my friends. So here's to all my lovely friends, I would have not been this way if it was not for you guys :) Now you decide whether I am good or bad, or good girl gone bad :P
Santoshri, Neli, Bhumika, Vidya, Dhruvi, Harsh, Devang, Rajat, Nikhil, Nabila, Rakhi, Angel, Polo. Thanks for coming into my life, you make it beautiful just by being in it. Whether in touch or not in touch. You will remain my closest buddies forever. I know I have not mentioned everyone, but like I said before, they are of the Eighth kind ;) A special mention for a special group of friends in my life whom I have not even met, but feel so connected with them [ILMBF]... Love all of you...
As I end this post I remember the lines from a song of Paul McCartney:
There is a fine line, between recklessness and courage
It's about time, you understood which road to take
It's a fine line, your decision makes a difference
Get it wrong, you'll be making a big mistake
Come on brother, all is forgiven
We all cried when you were driven away
Come on brother, everything is better
Everything is better when you come home and stay....