Dec 13, 2008

Exes and Ohs

No, no.. I am not talking about lesbianism and the rules of lesbian dating here, nor am I really in the mood for the Ex and Oh game [I am pretty good at it by the way]... But when I say "Exes and Ohs" I mean it, literally! Whenever we think of our exes, there is always an oh! accompanying it :P

I have had I don't know how many relationships till date... I've lost count, honestly. Some lasted for years, some for months, some for weeks, some for days and some for hours too! But I have been in 3 serious relationships as of now. And when I look back now, I do not have the slightest feeling of regret because each one of them made me a better, stronger person and more acquainted with the realities of life.

Different people have different approaches towards their exes. To each his own. I have a mixed one! I used to think before that it was not difficult being friends even after you have been dating before. I was convinced about it too because I was friends with all my exes that time. That was 3 years ago. The notion has changed now, I think that once you break up, you better keep your exes out of sight, out of mind, and out of life! The reason for this change, I believe, is that I used to never be as involved in relationships before... Now, it is a little different.

One of the many things that I have learnt from my current relationship, since past 1 and a half year, is that you MUST NOT mention your ex [even if that is in a friendly faith] in front of your current interest at any cost. They react adversely, sooner or later. They tend to take it otherwise. One of the many things I wanna learn from my current relationship, especially being a girl, is how to get over my ex flames, for good! I really want to learn how to eradicate the inevitable force of comparison which takes over your current relationship at some point or the other during its tenure.

I learnt from my first serious Ex that women should not and must not be used as dummies to take out your frustrations in life. Oh, I would not want to have that phase of life back again! I learnt from my second serious Ex that respect ought to be an important ingredient in any relationship. Just because you're committed to a girl does not mean she cannot have a career and her own self respect. Oh, how I hope the notion has changed now... What makes everything worse is the peculiar quality of Exes to realize their mistakes only after the relationship has been called off! Oh, it sucks! I cannot think of an Ex situation without an Oh! :P Atleast not right now...

Nevertheless, I am very thankful to all my Exes, serious or not, for teaching me something or the other. Doesn't matter whether I am in touch with you or not, I will always wish the best in life for all of you! Oh, and I had a great time with all of you :P [There we go, another Ex with an Oh!] Thank you for everything! I know and you know it too that we are each others Exes coz things did not workout well. There was hurt, tears, mistrust and everything of that sort, but as Justin Timberlake says, What Goes Around Comes Around... I am a strong believer in that! Thank you the most for going away from my life, if it was not for you guys, I would have not met my current love interest ;)

Keep spreading love, it is beautiful!


^_^ SENO ^_^ said...

ohhh nice topic :P

my two ohh's r not worth discussing though!! ;-) ...u r really on a roll ASH with the blogosphere hehehhe :)

nikhil said...

Blog queen!!

Keep em comin sis

Satans Darling™ said...

Hahah! Glad you liked it!

IcE MaiDeN said...

exs n ohhs.... interesting...:)
we are so alike.... every word tht u wrote is so true for me... tht i felt lik someone had just summarized all my thoughts abt life , love n relationships...

n the "ohh" part... made me think of barney saying something similiar in How i Met ur Mother... "theres a ohhh moment in every relationship..."

neway good work... hope u see more similiar thoughts coming thru.... love u... mwah!!!


hey ashi dis had been very honestly written and explained by you..made me feel much more stronger again..
the 'oh' n 'shitt' feeling whch i specially have wen i remember my 'ex'..

and very rightly spoken..'wat goes around comes around'..i guess ones who r gone never really deserved you anyways..;)

WiLD ChiLD said...

even before your blog cud explain what you meant by 'ex' and 'oh' - i knew. hehehe. nice post :D

Satans Darling™ said...

Hahah... Thanks for liking it Fati :)

Nik said...
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Nik said...

One of the most hard hitting posts i have read i n the past few weeks..

Girl i dont know how u managed to write this, but i just feel like you "held" love in your hands strongly and treated and swayed it the way YOU like it! I admire this very quality!

I so wish i had the same, coz as for me, if my ex/present(yes they r the same ryt now... ;) ), becomes my PERMANENT EX, i may fall into a relation after dat, but i wont fall in LOVE again...

Anyway, one hell of a post. Unbarred thoughts and ...just ....a killer.

Good work..

Keep rytng... ;)

PS: Hope to see you around at my blog sometime..! do visit!
Cheers :)

Newbie Mommy said...

Real good stuff :) Keep 'em coming :)